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Should I Tell My Boss That I Got A Better Offer?

Dear Liz,

I have a dilemma. I really, really like my job and I love my boss, but she doesn’t go to bat for me.

We are friendly. We collaborate well. My boss apologizes to me at least once a month for my pathetically low salary, but at my last performance review I got a two percent raise. I am badly underpaid.

She says the university doesn’t have the money, but it isn’t true. They spend money like crazy around here. I wasn’t job-hunting, but my old boss works at a consulting firm in my city and he gave my name to a partner there. The partner’s assistant called me and I went on two interviews at the consulting firm two weeks ago.

Today they made me an offer for ten thousand dollars more per year than I’m earning now.

I don’t know what to do. I can accept the offer and give notice at my current job, or I can tell my boss that I got a better offer and hope she makes me a counter offer.

I know she can’t pay me the whole ten thousand dollar difference but maybe she could meet me halfway.

What do you think I should do?



Dear Regina,

I think you should go to work for the consulting firm. Why does your current boss deserve a shot at keeping you in your small box after she’s already proven that she won’t stand up for you?

If your current boss got you a $5K or even a $10K increase now just because you showed her a competing job offer, wouldn’t you be insulted? You should be!

Your boss wasn’t willing to risk one drop of her political capital to keep you in her department until another company made you a job offer. If she is willing to do so now, then she knew all along that you were underpaid and she was fine with it. Do you still want to work for her?

If your boss really cared about keeping you around, it wouldn’t take a competing offer to get her to pay you fairly!

You are at a crossroads. When you find yourself at a crossroads, I recommend that you always take the road you haven’t traveled before! Enjoy the new job –

All the best,


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